Or otherwise put: are muscles ‘feminine’? Or are tomatoes vegetables or fruits, or are whales fish or mammals? These may be questions any ten year-old could answer easily, (“Like, who cares? Are you stupid or what?”), but for anxious adults, still in the mating game, these questions, well the last one only (I hope) still pose a serious conundrum. Who would Tarzan show off too if there was no Jane? And would Tarzan feel so protective of, and attracted to, his Jane, if he had to watch her tear the head of a crocodile with her bare hands, then break the back of a rhino with one blow? And could Jane really do all of that without getting ‘buff’?
That’s the problem for women who want to stay ‘fit’. If you exercise to reach your physical peak this can often bring bulk and definition to your muscles, which may make you feel self-conscious. It seems hard to find that middle ground, and women are put under yet more pressure in trying to marry the dictates of nature- to exercise the body and preserve longevity; with societal expectations- to look ‘good’, whatever that means.
Wanting to avoid the self-loathing that most fence-sitters must often feel, not to mention discomfort…, I will be honest about my views on the issue and say “Yes”. Too many muscles can make a woman butch….if she also does not show attention to her femininity in the other visual attributes, and in her mannerisms. Picture this: how many men (some even very famous) have been fooled into a ‘night out’ and all that it may entail, by a man in a dress?! Brazilian football ace Cristiano Ronaldo could vouch. Yeah, that’s right. He said he didn’t know! And I believe him! Mainly because femininity is about so much more than just arms and legs…and stomach tone, calves, facial muscles…you get the picture.
Femininity is a natural attribute gifted by nature (hormones, genes and stuff) and enhanced by an endless array of ‘assisting products’. So, if you find after healthy, regular and vigorous exercise that you are buffing up:
-use make-up to enhance your eyes and lips, pout and do all that girlie stuff with your eyes
-SHOW OFF THAT BODY. Wear style and textures that show that firm rear, the tight upper arms, to their best advantage. Flow into a room, clothe yourself with flair, not trend. Flaunt your difference with pride, and make those flabby girls point.
-And for heaven’s sake wear feminine colors. Chemical attraction is just that: it involves all the senses and is truly a science. So work on the colors- soft, light, pastel, clear and rich.
-Groom yourself, wear perfume, and accessorize
-Be natural, gentle, measured in your manner. Some ‘drag queens’ pull it off simply because they ‘act like a woman’, even with an Adam’s Apple the size of Nebraska.
-Femininity is in the timbre and tone of voice, the expression, the laugh or smile, the brows, the posture, and in the mind! Yours and his! The feminine is ‘that which is ultimately hidden’, the elusive, the mystery (or, the mysterious power of the womb- that which no man can cleverly ‘de-construct’ or replace with technology).
Serena Williams is possibly one of the most feminine women on the planet. With a masterful (mistressful…?) blend of nature and ‘assisting products’, she has created a Goddess.
Are there any Gods out there who can handle the challenge, or only mere mortals? (Oops, just heard she might already be engaged to her on/off boyfriend, Common…will check it out and get back…!)
